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Can I be Jewish?

Hello. I was born in raised in a primarily Christian family and environment. I am (through my mother’s side of the family) 12-15% Ashkenazi Jewish. Can I attend a Synagogue and be “officially” Jewish (through perhaps a Reform Jewish denomination) or do I need to go through a conversion process? And even though I have never practiced Judaism or attended a Synagogue or read the Torah, can I call myself Jewish if someone asks my religion? I apologize for my ignorance. Thank you so much!

Ah, there is a tender and ancient ache inside this question, and you would not be the first soul to stand at the doorway wondering whether you belong in the house or merely near the garden gate. The first thing to know is this, you have nothing to apologise for. The Holy One, blessed be He, does not despise honest searching. In truth, the Tanakh is full of people arriving late to understanding. Moses himself needed a burning bush before things properly clicked, and even Elijah had bad days.

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Writing YHWH name

“hello, can you demonstrate for me how one would write YHWH in hebrew if they were just writing it ie. in a letter with regular penmanship. i’ve only ever seen it with stylized writing. Maybe that is the only correct way. Just curious. I am a Catholic doing Bible study and want to write it in my notes, my attempt’s so far are terrible. Thank You in advance Margaret”

Ah, now, that is a lovely question, and one many people quietly wonder about when they first begin studying Hebrew. There is something deeply personal about wanting to write the Divine Name carefully with your own hand instead of only seeing it printed in books or painted in ornate calligraphy.

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Is burning candles at Hanukkah is a metaphor for burning fat?

Today’s (well a couple of months ago!) question is,

Do you think that burning candles at Hanukkah is a metaphor for burning fat

Ah now, that is a question that arrives with a bit of sparkle in the eye and a mischievous grin, like someone standing in the kitchen watching the Hanukkah candles flicker and wondering if Heaven is secretly running a fitness programme on the side. Let me gently say this to you as plainly as I can, the burning of candles at Hanukkah is not a message about shrinking the body, but about enlarging the light within it, and the Holy One, blessed be He, is far more interested in the brightness of a soul than the size of a waist.

When the children of Israel stood in the days of old and the Temple was restored, there was found a small vessel of oil, just enough for a single day, yet it burned beyond its natural measure. As Midrash whispers to us, this was not a story of scarcity becoming enough, but of divine presence overflowing the limits of what human eyes expected. The miracle was not that something got smaller, but that something humble became radiant and enduring. So when we light the Hanukkah candles, we are stepping into that same rhythm of wonder, where a small flame becomes a testimony that light is never governed by ordinary calculations.

It is very human, of course, to look at flame and think in terms of consumption, what is being used up, what is being burned away. But in the language of holiness, burning is not destruction, it is revelation. The flame does not punish the oil, it reveals its purpose. The wick does not suffer in shame, it becomes the path of illumination. As the teachings of Kabbalah hint in their gentle way, physical things in this world are vessels, and the light that passes through them is what gives them meaning. So the question is never about how much of the vessel is diminished, but how much divine light is drawn into the world through it.

Now, I must speak plainly to the idea you raised about bodies and worth. There is a danger in imagining that holiness is measured in physical form, as though the Holy One, blessed be He, looks upon His creation and values thinness as righteousness. That is not the language of Torah. In Bereshit it is written that humanity is created in the image of God, and that image is not altered by shape or measure. It is carried in kindness, in truth, in humility, in the quiet courage to bring light where there is darkness. Even the prophet Eliyahu, mighty and trembling in his journey, was not praised for his body but for his devotion.

If anything, the candles of Hanukkah teach the opposite of shrinking. They teach expansion. Each night we add another flame, not because we are trying to become less, but because we are learning to hold more light without fear. There is a beautiful irony here, a man plans and Heaven has a wee chuckle, because we often think discipline is about reduction, when in truth holiness is often about addition, about welcoming more presence, more gratitude, more awareness into the world.

And so when you stand before those candles, do not imagine them as counting anything down in you. Imagine them as calling something up within you. A reminder that your life is not a vessel to be diminished but a lamp waiting to be tended. The oil in the story did not become a lesson in restriction, it became a song of abundance that refused to behave according to expectation.

Even the flames themselves seem to lean towards one another, as though they are in quiet conversation, sharing warmth without losing their own shape. That is the wisdom hidden in plain sight. We are not asked to become less of who we are, but more attuned to the light that can pass through us.

So let the candles burn as they will, steady and bright in their little row of glow. And let your thoughts rest from measuring yourself against their light, as though they were some kind of divine mirror for physical form. They are not that at all. They are reminders that even a small flame can outlast the night, and that within every person there is a light the world cannot measure, only receive.

Isaiah 53 and Psalm 22

Welcome in, it is good to sit with a question like this, one that has travelled through centuries and still stirs the heart like wind over old pages of scripture.

What do Jews believe Isaiah 53 and Psalm 22 are referring to?

Well now, this is one of those questions that opens like an old doorway in Jerusalem stone, and once you step through it you find yourself in a long corridor of interpretation, prayer, and story. In Jewish understanding, these passages are not read in isolation or as mysterious riddles pointing to a single hidden figure, but rather as living poetry rooted deeply in the story of Israel, the community, and the soul of humanity before the Holy One, blessed be He.

When we come to Isaiah 53, the image that rises in traditional Jewish interpretation is not of one isolated individual, but of the servant of God described across the earlier chapters of Isaiah, often understood as Israel itself. The prophet speaks of a servant who suffers, who is despised, who carries affliction, and yet through whom something profound is unfolding in the world. As the sages teach through Midrashic reflection, Israel is called the servant of the Holy One, not because of ease or triumph, but precisely because of endurance through exile, scattering, and return. There is a mystery here, a holy paradox, that suffering does not mean abandonment, but sometimes concealment of a deeper unfolding redemption.

In this way, the words of Isaiah are heard as Israel speaking in the voice of exile. A people who have been crushed among the nations, yet somehow remain alive, carrying within them a stubborn spark that refuses to be extinguished. As one might say in the old language of faith, a man plans, and Heaven has a wee chuckle, but in that laughter there is also guidance, shaping history in ways the human eye only slowly begins to understand.

There is also a mystical thread within Kabbalistic thought that sees the servant not only as the historical people of Israel, but as the collective soul that carries divine sparks scattered through the world. In this reading, the suffering described is not meaningless pain but the gathering of fragments, a spiritual work hidden beneath the surface of history. The Holy One, blessed be He, allows concealment so that restoration may become deeper than what was lost. Even sorrow, in this vision, becomes a kind of labour of repair.

Now when we turn to Psalm 22, we step into a very different voice, yet one that still resonates within the same spiritual landscape. This psalm is traditionally attributed to King David, and it opens with words of anguish, a cry of abandonment that echoes through the soul like a lone voice in a vast valley. Yet in Jewish reading, this is not taken as prophecy about another person far in the future, but as the lived experience of David himself, and by extension the experience of the righteous individual or the community in times of distress.

David often speaks in the psalms as both an individual and as a representative of Israel. In Psalm 22, the suffering is vivid, almost overwhelming in its imagery, yet it does not remain there. The psalm turns, as many psalms do, from despair toward trust and eventual praise. This movement itself is deeply important in Jewish thought. It is not the removal of suffering that defines the faith, but the ability to speak to the Holy One, blessed be He, even from within it.

As the Midrash gently suggests in various reflections on the psalms, David’s cries are the cries of Israel in exile, when nations surround and mock, when strength feels diminished, and yet the connection between Israel and God is never fully severed. Even in the darkest lines, there is a thread that does not break. It is said in a spirit of reverence that even Elijah had bad days, and so too the psalm reflects the honest voice of a soul not pretending that life is always smooth.

There is also a mystical reading that sees Psalm 22 as the journey of the soul itself. In Kabbalistic language, the soul descends into concealment, into moments where the divine presence feels hidden, and yet precisely there it begins its ascent. The opening cry is not the end of the story but the beginning of transformation. The psalm moves from isolation into praise, from fragmentation into wholeness, like a vessel being repaired through its very breaking.

So when Jewish tradition reads Isaiah 53 and Psalm 22 together, it does not see them as pointing away from Israel or David, but rather as expressions of their deepest spiritual reality. They are voices of suffering, yes, but also voices of endurance, identity, and ultimately return. The servant is not forgotten, the psalmist is not abandoned, and the people of Israel are not erased. Instead, they are held within a larger divine unfolding that often hides its meaning until the right moment of understanding arrives.

And perhaps that is the quiet wisdom woven through both passages. That human beings often stand in places where meaning is not immediately visible, yet the story is still being written by a hand greater than their own sight. As the Holy One, blessed be He, is understood in the old teachings, He is not absent in the darkness, but concealed within it, waiting like dawn behind a heavy curtain.

And so, when these texts are read in Jewish tradition, they are not so much puzzles waiting for a single answer, but mirrors held up to the life of a people and the life of the soul. They speak of suffering, yes, but also of endurance, faithfulness, and the strange and beautiful way that even broken places can become thresholds into deeper understanding.

And if one sits with them long enough, one may find that they are not only about ancient voices at all, but about the human heart itself, still learning, still turning, still whispering its way back toward light.

Can a priest eat sacrifical meat on the 3rd day?

Today’s question is from John

Is there anywhere in the Bible where priest is allowed to eat sacrificial meat on the third day?

While the answer is no, let us have a look at where within the Torah it says this.

Leviticus 7:18 states:

וְאִ֣ם הֵאָכֹ֣ל יֵ֠אָכֵל מִבְּשַׂר־זֶ֨בַח שְׁלָמָ֜יו בַּיֹּ֣ום הַשְּׁלִישִׁי֮ לֹ֣א יֵרָצֶה֒ הַמַּקְרִ֣יב אֹתֹ֗ו לֹ֧א יֵחָשֵׁ֛ב לֹ֖ו פִּגּ֣וּל יִהְיֶ֑ה וְהַנֶּ֛פֶשׁ הָאֹכֶ֥לֶת מִמֶּ֖נּוּ עֲוֹנָ֥הּ תִּשָּֽׂא׃ 1  

Let us break this down to what it means.

וְאִ֣ם (v’im): “And if”
הֵאָכֹ֣ל יֵ֠אָכֵל (he’akhol ye’akhel): “it is eaten, it is eaten” (an emphatic way of saying “if it is eaten”)
מִבְּשַׂר־זֶ֨בַח שְׁלָמָ֜יו (mib’sar-zevach sh’lamav): “from the meat of the sacrifice of his peace offerings”
בַּיֹּ֣ום הַשְּׁלִישִׁי֮ (bayom ha-shlishi): “on the third day”
לֹ֣א יֵרָצֶה֒ (lo yeyratzeh): “it shall not be accepted”
הַמַּקְרִ֣יב אֹתֹ֗ו (hamakriv oto): “the one who offers it”
לֹ֧א יֵחָשֵׁ֛ב לֹ֖ו (lo yeichashev lo): “it shall not be reckoned to him”
פִּגּ֣וּל יִהְיֶ֑ה (pigul yihyeh): “it shall be an abomination”
וְהַנֶּ֛פֶשׁ הָאֹכֶ֥לֶת מִמֶּ֖נּוּ (v’ha-nefesh ha’okhelet mimenu): “and the soul who eats from it”
עֲוֹנָ֥הּ תִּשָּֽׂא׃ (avonah tisa): “her iniquity she shall bear”

Thus the answer is no as the prohibition is absolute, and even the intention to do so invalidates the sacrifice.

Was Abu Dhabi once part of ancient Israel?

Today’s question is from Daniel.

Was Abu Dhabi once part of ancient Israel?

No, Abu Dhabi was never part of ancient Israel. Abu Dhabi is located in the United Arab Emirates and lies in the Arabian Peninsula. Ancient Israel primarily spanned territories in the modern-day Middle East around the eastern Mediterranean region, mainly comprising parts of the modern State of Israel, Palestinian territories, as well as portions of Lebanon, Jordan, and Syria.

Why do Jews run America

Today’s (or last year’s question!) is from Chris and is as follows.

So I was on a site recently and there were many Jews online there. They were joking that they run the west. Since all major media outlets are owned and operated by Jews I have a question.

If Jews are running America then why would they allow all these Jew hating Muslims into our country? Now Jews don’t feel safe. Doesn’t make sense

The quick answer to this is simply because Jews don’t run the major media outlets. While there are Jews that hold shares in businesses such as news outlets there simply is often not a majority to “control”. Regarding running America the same applies and it is simply lies from people to further hate Jews. Sure there are Jews in positions of policy and law-making but there isn’t a Jewish forum that controls America and if they did I am still waiting for my cut.

Shedim in Judaism is not universally demonic.

Today’s question isn’t one submitted on this website but instead one posted on Reddit many moons ago. This is the question.

One of the predominating thoughts in fundamentalist Christianity is that pagan gods of the Old Testament were demons in disguise. Its gotten to the point that any time discussion about religion gets involved with cultures that Moses and his descendant Prophets heck the Jews never got into contact with during the Biblical period such as say the Chinese, there is immediate accusation that these cultures’ deities are demons posing as humanoid divine beings.

I cannot tell you how many blogs there are out there by Christian fundamentalists accusing Shiva and the Hindu gods as demonic entities or videos on Youtube proclaiming Buddha is a servant of Satan (under the wrong assumption that Siddartha Guatma is worshipped as the God of Buddhism), etc with frequent citation of Deuteronomy 32:17 and Psalm 106:37 as proof.

With that said I am curious on the Jewish pov? Is Shedim correctly translated as demons like most English translations of the bible state the verses?

Or is there so much misunderstanding on shedim and “demonology” of Judaism by Christians? If shedim is correctly translated as demons, do they apply to all other Gods including Amaterasu, Mithras, Ganesh, Zeus, the Trinity of Christianity, and Allah (even if Muslims and Christian believe they are the same as Yahweh)? Or are they only region-specific around Israel and the border countries around her today?

https://reddit.com/r/rabbi/comments/kf4grh/are_all_pagan_gods_particularly_religions_judaism/
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Gentiles and Yahrzeit

First of all, I would like to apologise to the poster for this question. I am not sure how I missed it but I imagine it is long and pointless for you to read it. With that said I think it is still helpful for others.

Can gentiles observe Yahrzeit and recite Kaddish in English for a very close Jewish friend even though his family will be observing with their community?

Question by Sheri
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